“People are people.”
These infamous words have been consistently spoken to me by my father for as long as I can remember. He didn’t say these words in the aspect that he wanted to think negatively of people. But he spoke these words to me in order to make me understand that people have various reasons for their actions; some that become known as well as some that never do and make you scratch your heard.
People are just the way they are. No shame or pun intended.
When I was a teen, I found that his words also connected to one of the most famous quotes spoken by beloved poet and writer Dr. Maya Angelou: “When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” More and more in my life, I have found these words to be so true. I have also found my father’s words to be true. I have realized that though people may have their own reasons for why they are the way that they or why they do the things that they do, we should not allow any of their actions to negatively impact us.
Getting burned by people who you thought you could trust, sucks. Sometimes I’ve given people other chances, feeling that everyone is entitled to make mistake. However, in the few times that I did give chances to the same people, I discovered that their actions would get worse or I would later become mad at myself for giving them another chance.
Looking back at these experiences, I have come to realize that sure, you can give people chances. However, you also need to be aware and to trust your gut. You need to know when enough is enough and when they don’t deserve another chance until proven otherwise. We need to take people for who they are and believe them when they show us their true colors. This is a good thing to do.
When you see someone’s truth, don’t deny it. Be thankful for it and use that experience to protect yourself. It’s best to forgive them and to remember the truth that they’ve shown you, so that they don’t hurt you again.
On that note, here are my seven reasons as to why you should always believe people, the first time they show you who they are – and keep your distance. (Note: You don’t have to literally run from them when you see them. That would be kind of weird.) 🙂
7 REASONS TO BELIEVE PEOPLE, THE FIRST TIME THEY SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE
1. A person’s ill-fated truth is always doomed from start.
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Fool me three times…say what?! Ohhh no!
2. They could do worst damage.
Sometimes people really don’t care about your feelings, or at least, they care about theirs and their well-being more. Don’t put yourself in a position where you’re vulnerable to their actions.
3. People rarely change.
And when they have truly changed, you’re instincts will let you know. That’s enough said here.
4. They could try to eventually deceive you, making you think that a situation is your fault.
This one is so annoying and often will make you beat up on yourself because you think that you did something wrong.
5. They could take advantage of you.
Have respect for yourself. Know what you will and will not tolerate.
6. They could hurt you.
Not necessarily physically, but emotionally. You don’t need extra stress in your life. Life is hard enough.
7. From continuously taking the passive aggressive approach, you may unconsciously start allowing more people to have the opportunity to hurt you or to take advantage of you.
That wraps up all of the above, I think.
OK, SO what’s the bottom line?
Always believe people whenever they show you who they are, the *very* first time. And most importantly, you may want to tell them how you felt about their actions. (Note: Do not approach them in a confrontational manner). By doing so, you can make sure that what they did becomes the first time (and last time) that they do it to you.
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