So what makes the best kind of relationships?
It’s the ones in which regardless of the situation or where you are, you can be your most authentic self. No, I’m not trying to go all Oprah. But I am going to get “authentic” in the things that I’m discovering about relationships.
To be honest, I haven’t always been good at relationships. Most of the time I have sucked at them. When I was younger, I sucked at my friendships, because I always tried to fit in. I was able to move past that in high school, but later it was hard to move past in my romantic relationships.
Yet the older I have gotten, the more I’ve realized and am finding that the relationships which have meant the most to me (even those with people who I consider to be my best friends) have been the ones in which I could truly be myself. The ones in which people helped me embrace who I am.
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Authenticity is what later brings serenity. I could let my guard completely down. I didn’t have to fake what I believe, who I was, or anything. I felt like I could be my true self. I felt like I could look my flaws straight in the eye and embrace them in all of their beauty.
That’s why I think being authentic in all of your relationships is so important. When you don’t, you don’t even scratch the surface of finding a deeper meaning to the person who you are connecting with and you don’t even scratch the surface to one of life’s greatest eternal beauties: relationships.
All of these feelings remind me of a quote that I once heard from Carrie Bradshaw: “Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” It is fabulous. I wish I could have discovered this understanding sooner.
Looking back, I wish I could have discovered the true essence of being authentic. Because being authentic has really made me love myself and made want to only be around people who love and appreciate me, for me…and all of my uniqueness wrapped in between.
Choosing to be authentic has made me completely accept myself and love myself more.
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