What’s holding you back from finding and pursuing your purpose in life?
Is it a lack of time, opportunities, or money?
Yes, these are obstacles. Sometimes big ones. Rent or a mortgage doesn’t magically pay for itself. Then for some reason it takes food to live. And people charge money for that food. What’s up with that?
However, I’d argue these reasons above are actually NOT the biggest things holding us back.
What’s keeping us from pursuing our purpose is much more subtle, yet paralyzing.
1. Lack of Intentionality
Have you had those times when you’re driving in the car, and then you realize you can’t remember any part of the last fifteen minutes of the drive.
That’s scary stuff! Yet, we live our lives much in the same way. Which is even scarier!
Most days are spent stumbling and shuffling around without any clear idea where we’re headed. Or why we even started going in that direction in the first place.
All of us live intentionally. Problem is – most of us live intentionally unintentional.
We have this nagging feeling that something is eating at us, yet we don’t take the time to try to identify what it is.
It’s much easier to pretend problems don’t exist. Intentionality takes courage. It’s easy to sink and stay where it’s comfortable.
Yet, like ignoring a termite problem — just because you pretend they’re not there, doesn’t mean grandma’s oak nightstand is safe.
You have to stare your biggest problems, questions, and fears in the face and then intentionally do something about them.
Or not, and let the termites slowly eat everything around you.
2. Fear and Insecurities are Crushing Your Confidence
As I first wrote in 101 Secrets For Your Twenties, “Insecurities are just like Swamp Things. Just when you think you’ve escaped, they rise up for a surprise attack…Crush your insecurities before they crush you.”
Just because you grow up doesn’t mean you grow out of your insecurities. No, sometimes if you’re not careful, you grow into them.
I think we all struggle with this insecure feeling of “I don’t have what it takes” at some point. Even if it’s not exactly something we’re raving about on Facebook.
Yet, too often these insecurities, these fears of “what if I fail”, keep us stuck.
We let that voice, that “Liar”, keep us from stepping outside our comfort zone and pursuing our purpose.
But that voice is a lie.
You are good enough.
You have a unique flavor you bring to the world that no one else can. Sometimes we just need to tweak, experiment, hone, and own what exactly that Signature Sauce looks like and how it is best applied…
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