I am in a room surrounded by the thoughts from family and friends.
Their words are suffocating my own thoughts. I can barely see or hear myself because their words are just getting louder and louder.
“Why are you doing that?”
“You should do this!”
“Why you not doing it this way?”
“Figure it out on your own. You don’t need help.”
“You have gotten yourself into a big mess.”
“It’s gonna take you a while to get out of that hole.”
“If I were you….”
“What did you go to college for if you can’t figure out how to make it on your own?”
Sometimes we can’t escape the negative comments. No matter how far I tried to go I ended up right back in the house with the relatives I tried so hard to get away from. Day in and day out, I’m judged by these people I call family.
Everyday someone is focused on telling me how to live my life or angry because I choose to live differently. It’s truly exhausting trying to fight the negative comments. I’m scolded for the way my life has turned out (which is not bad at all- just not to the liking of some) and I think to myself, “They have no idea the damage their words can do.”
Instead of seeking revenge or trying to hurt them, I merely focus on getting out of my hole and building a foundation to ensure my hole never gets to this point again. The goal of patching up a hole is to be smarter and better so when the next storm comes, the hole can sustain more damage without getting any bigger or any deeper.
We all are bound to hit a low point.
However, exactly how low you go depends on the decisions that you make.
You choose if you are going to fall six feet or just a few inches into shallow water. Each time you fall, you should use the rebuilding time to harden the foundation that will elevate you higher. It’s a terrible feeling falling and having to rely on unreliable people.
Make a promise to yourself to never return to the negativity hole. You’ve learned your lesson. Build your foundation that no one can break. Plan for your future. It’s never easy pulling yourself up. But it gives you strength. It tests your own capabilities, drive and passion. Once you patch up this hole, you can say “Bye Felicia.”
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