Adulting: Helping Kids Bounce Back From A Bad Game In Team Sports

Team sports like soccer are more than another after-school commitment for children. Kids are learning valuable skills like collaboration, leadership, and communication that will be useful to them both on and off the field.

Victory and defeat are natural parts of how children learn to cope with success and disappointment. It may be a tough lesson, but losing in team sports is one of the best ways for kids to learn that they can’t always win early in life. As a parent or coach, how you support and frame their losses plays a big part in the way they learn from them.

The Role of Parents and Coaches

After a bad game, tell them how much you respect their effort and understand the feeling after a loss. Reassure them that it was only one game and that they can learn from it. If you want to be a fantastic soccer parent even after a disappointing game, consider these suggestions.

Give them some context for the game they've lost. Show them how losing is not the end of the world, and that it happens to all teams from time to time.
Give the child your attention. Be there for them, regardless of the game’s outcome. Let them know that you can relate to how they are currently experiencing and that you will always be there for them.
Remind your child that soccer being a team sport, a game's result may not be as directly tied to how well they played or how talented they are. A single game can’t be a reflection of what they are capable of. Tell them that continuing practicing and growing from their experience is the way to go.
Be sure to acknowledge their efforts and express your appreciation. Recognize and praise your child for the tasks they have completed successfully. Share your thoughts on the positives, such as an accurate pass or a well-placed shot.
When your child's team loses, it may be an excellent opportunity to teach them the value of perseverance. They must understand that failure is normal and that the important thing is to apply the lessons learned from such experiences.

The Power of Team Support

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Wins and losses reflect on the entire team. Everyone on the team bears the responsibility, and everyone has their teammates for support. Especially in loss, there are lessons that the entire team can take to heart

Children can be encouraged to confide in coaches and teammates. They may benefit greatly from hearing the perspectives of those who have been in their position.
For additional insight into what went amiss and how to improve, you may step back and let your child work with their team. It's possible that someone else on the team may pick up on something you overlooked, or will have a better suggestion on how to proceed.
Seeing a teammate take the time to support and encourage them may be the extra motivation your child needs to return to the field after a bad game.

Go the Extra Mile With Supplemental Training

Your child and their team can find extra coaching and practice outside of team practice through supplemental training programs.

Looking for extra soccer training videos and programs, or spending extra time on soccer practice can help channel any frustration from their loss in a constructive way. It can also afford your child the opportunity to focus on areas of improvement that will have the greatest impact. Players of any age and skill level can invest in training to improve their techniques or exercise that can improve their fitness and endurance.

Private coaching and video lessons make excellent supplements to team practice. Your child has a greater chance of excelling on the field if they have the opportunity to study and assimilate, at their own pace and convenience, authentic lessons that could give them a head-start on the concepts they are already learning.

Therapy to Score Over Post-Game Blues

With its emphasis on visualization and positive self-talk, a hypnotherapy regimen may help young athletes better frame their perspective and see things in a more optimistic way.

After a bad game, young athletes may experience anxiety and worry, which may be alleviated by hypnosis. The soothing effects that the therapy has on the body and mind may give your child a better sense of mastery over their feelings.
If their game has not gone well, your child could try visualizing themselves winning and moving on to greater success. They could even cultivate a healthy sense of self-assurance and optimism regarding their abilities.
Your child may be able to pay more attention and concentrate if hypnosis is used. If they envision themselves succeeding and remaining composed, they’ll thrive under pressure.

Bouncing Back to Brilliance

Parents play a crucial role in providing morale-boosting and emotional support to their child after a disappointing performance. From extra training to visualization techniques, your support plays a huge role in helping them overcome mental blocks, reduce anxiety, and cultivate a positive, self-assured outlook on life. Your support may give them the advantage they need to realize their full potential.

“Success isn’t determined by how many times you win, but by how you play the week after you lose.” - Pele, a soccer legend