If you’ve ever read my posts on Huffington Post Impact, you know I like to tell stories about inspiring individuals who are driven by a sense of purpose.
Recently, I was speaking with an Army Veteran who had been in Iraq, and I realized that I’ve written very little about the veteran population. Shame on me. To serve in the military is to live (and sometimes die) with a sense of purpose.
So back in August, I took it upon myself to find three veterans whose stories I would share. I didn’t have to look far. Thanks to my friends at the The Mission Continues, I was given access to their nationwide community of 3,000+ veterans. Ultimately, I selected three people who moved me not because of something spectacular that they’ve accomplished, rather because of how normal and accessible they were. These are people who struggle with day-to-day living just as you or I might, yet they draw from their military experience and continue to lead a live of purpose and giving back.
Last month, United States Marine Corps veteran Nick Ellis celebrated his 30th birthday, standing on a South Florida beach with wife Kelley by his side, salt water lapping at their bare feet. In one hand, Nick held a piece of paper. In his other hand he held a lighter. Slowly, with resolve and purpose, Nick lit the paper and watched as the long list of words on the page browned and turned to ash. He then dropped what remained of the flaming embers into the water. Nick was reborn … once again.
Nick Ellis grew up on the South Side of Richmond, Virginia in a low-income neighborhood where young African-American men, particularly those in their teenage years, were educated primarily on the street. Nick knew he needed to remove himself from that environment, so at age 17 he joined the U.S. Marine Corps. Rebirth. For several years, Nick traveled the world as a combat cook, but in 2005 he deployed to Iraq, where he earned a Purple Heart for valor shown during the Abu Ghraib prison attack. During the battle, Nick sustained shrapnel injuries to his face and head. “The jail was booby trapped. It was a freaking nightmare.” That day, Nick and all 33 of his comrades-in-arms escaped death. Rebirth.
Nick’s recovery from that traumatic brain injury has been slow and painful (and continues even today), but he returned to active duty after 30 days at a medical center. After an honorable discharge in 2006, Nick struggled with maintaining employment and personal finances. He had troubles with his identity and isolated himself as he missed the camaraderie and structure he was accustomed to from the military. He was diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in 2008.
“After my discharge, I was stubborn and egotistical. I didn’t want to hear the truth about my injuries, or be branded as an ‘injured vet’ in other people’s eyes. In truth, I felt completely worthless. I had not yet learned the importance of emotional health and spiritual health. Those were painful, but critical lessons to learn. I was going to have to rebuild my life.”
Nick married Kelley in 2010 and started pursuing his bachelor’s degree. He was on the right track, but still struggled to find a much desired sense of personal purpose. One night at 3:00 a.m., sleepless, intoxicated, Nick Googled “Veterans – Nonprofits – Resources.” That was when he learned about the Mission Continues. “On the website I read about their core values, and I felt an intense pride, the first time I had experienced that since serving with the Marines.” Rebirth.
Nick was awarded a Mission Continues Fellowship that brought him back to his roots, mentoring at-risk youth and their families for 20 hours a week at the Florida Community Alliance. He focused on helping kids 13 to 18 years old develop life skills, seek gainful employment and improve family conditions. “I had settled and become complacent, but The Mission Continues brought energy back into my life. I was again part of something larger than myself. It brought me back to teamwork, group dynamics, and organization.
In the 18 months since completing his Fellowship, Nick achieved his B.A. degree in entrepreneurship. He is a husband, a father of two, an actively engaged member in his community, a volunteer, an entrepreneur, and an inspiration to other veterans who struggle to find a sense of purpose. “Veterans all have a chance to rewrite how society views us. We need to grab that opportunity. Don’t be a dead veteran.”
Nick smiled as the ashes of his 30th birthday note were swept away by the tide. “It was a list of everything negative in my life. Excuses. Guilt. Unhealthy emotions. It was time for me to let all of that go.”
Thank you, Nick, for sharing your journey with us, for continuing to serve us here at home, and for allowing us to get to know you.
Ellis: “I believe the best way to show anything is through action. I want the world to remember me for my actions, not my words.” (Photo courtesy of Talking Good)
1. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO SERVE HERE AT HOME?
One does not become a Marine with the flip of a switch. It is a lifetime decision.
2. OF WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD?
My accomplishments as a USMC Veteran, husband, and father.
3. DESCRIBE A MOMENT THAT CHANGED YOU.
When I took my Mission Continues fellowship oath in New York at ground zero. It felt as if I was redoing my vows to my country. I cried like a baby.
4. WHAT DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH THE MOST SINCE STEPPING DOWN FROM ACTIVE DUTY?
I miss my brothers. The things one can do with a Marine Corps fire team is unbelievable to those who haven’t experienced it.
5. WHAT DO YOU WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW ABOUT THE VETERAN COMMUNITY?
I would want to communicate how capable veterans are. After all, we are professionals in life and death. So if your issues have less at stake … then we’re capable of handling that! Veterans are great people, but we’ve developed some scar tissue. We’ve also developed a very serious resistance to anti-American rhetoric.
6. WHO IS A PERSON YOU ADMIRE AND WHY? WHAT WOULD YOU ASK HIM/HER IF GIVEN THE CHANCE?
Denzel Washington. To date he has donated thousands of dollars to military/veteran causes. Not once has he sought attention for these contributions. I would want to know what military and country mean to him. What does patriotism mean to him?
7. WHICH ISSUE FACING YOUR COMMUNITY WOULD YOU LIKE TO BRING GREATER ATTENTION TO?
Education – plain and simple. How can one think effectively if they have not been taught how to think effectively? Fear and uncertainty are consequences of a lack of education.
8. WHAT IS SOMETHING PEOPLE MIGHT BE SURPRISED TO LEARN ABOUT YOU?
In high school, I was in the show choir. Also, I am a practicing astrologer of 9 years. I co-run a Facebook page called “Proud to be a Scorpio” and we have more than 7,200 members.
9. MY LEGACY TO THE WORLD WILL BE:
Leadership. Inspiration. Purpose. I believe the best way to show anything is through action. I want the world to remember me for my actions, not my words.
10. WHAT QUESTION DO YOU WISH I HAD ASKED AND WHAT IS THE ANSWER? QUESTION:
What is one way the Veteran community can improve? ANSWER: MAN UP! We have a chance to redefine how the world views us – let alone how we view ourselves. We need to accept our uniqueness and put it to good use. It would be nice to see more veterans involved with the country.
Talking GOOD is an ever-growing collection of interviews with purpose-driven individuals who champion causes and lead by example. These people are “citizen-philanthropists” because they prove that one does not need money – just passion, energy, and dedication to make a difference. Talking GOOD was conceived of and launched in 2012 by Rich Polt, principal of the Baltimore-based Public Recognition consultancy,Communicate Good, LLC. Rich can be reached at [email protected].
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