“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” ~Hermann Hesse
The need we as humans have to control everything in our lives can sometimes be overwhelming. We want everything to go the way we desire, from jobs to relationships and everything in between. When we don’t feel as though we have that control in our own lives, or there are things we can’t change, we tend to fixate upon them and brood over them, even if they happened years ago. We are control freaks, and losing that control terrifies us.
But there is a certain freedom in letting go, in accepting that there are things beyond our control and obsessing over them will only hurt us in the end. When we move on from what cannot be and let go of what is, we find new avenues to explore. Here are four beautiful things that can happen when you let go of what is:
~We Find Peace Within Ourselves
Constantly trying to change the unchangeable is, quite frankly, exhausting. It’s like trying to bend a titanium pipe with your bare hands constantly, refusing to quit. Of course, the pipe never bends, but you’re exhausted and your hands ache from trying so hard. At the end of the day, the only outcome from all of this is frustration and pain. By letting go of what is or what has happened in the past, you can finally release the pipe and feel all the frustration and anger leave as well.
~We Look For New Doors To Walk Through
When we obsess over what our reality is vs. what we want, we fail to notice so many other opportunities and paths we could be taking because our vision is so narrow. We hold on so tightly to not getting that job or a relationship not turning out like we wanted that we ignore new doors to open and new aspects of ourselves to explore. By finally letting go of what is, we can appreciate the other opportunities and people that come our way.
~We Focus On The Now
Not only do we miss other opportunities when we fixate on the unchangeable, we miss moments of our lives. We remain full of regret and bitterness towards the situation, and it can taint the way we carry on with our everyday lives or how we treat others. We ruin the “now” by focusing on what is or isn’t. When we let go, we stay focused on our “now” and live more fulfilling lives.
~We Appreciate What We Have
In the future, when faced with similar struggles, we’ll find it easier accept what is, and we won’t find ourselves spending so much time holding onto the anger and frustration that comes with denial. We will pick ourselves back up and begin looking for new possibilities and accept that maybe things turned out as they were supposed to. We’ll spend less time out of our everyday lives fretting and worrying and will instead learn to enjoy what we have.
No matter what it is your holding onto or what reality you’re facing that you cannot accept, chances are it is harming you and aspects of your life. Letting go is hard, but it’s only letting go and finding acceptance that can bring ourselves peace and a better tomorrow.
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