It’s almost here – that age everyone has been convincing you will be the time of your life. You will feel more confident, your relationships will get better, your career will take off and your life in general will have more meaning and value. Yet you feel scared of all the seriousness the life of a grown-up carries with it. You can’t quite say no to all-night parties, wrong decisions and still-looking-for-a-purpose lifestyle. Don’t worry, your 30s are going to fix all of this. According to a lot of scientific research, our brains are still developing by the time we turn 30. Therefore, you won’t be the same person as you were in your 20s and life will eventually sort itself out for the better. However, not without your effort. In order to ease the transition and truly reap the rewards of a mature and content life in your 30s, make sure to go through the list below and learn what it is you need to accept about yourself before you hit that magical age of 30.
You are Enough
All the situations and major life events of your 20s have taught you that there is nothing more important that believing in yourself. Everything that happens to you is a clear reflection of what you believe about yourself. So start cheering yourself on and expect and demand the best for yourself, because you are worthy, capable and lovable.
You are in Charge of Your Life
Before you turn 30, you need to overcome belief that life is something that happens to you without any responsibility on your side. As much as all the people who love you want the best for you, they can’t make the decisions or do the work for you. No amount of magic will create the opportunities, career or the family life of your dreams unless you step up and take charge. Decide on your goals, make plans and work hard.
Not Everyone Will Like You
And that is fine. Stop living by the rules of society just because you want everyone to like and approve of you. Guess what? They still won’t. Make sure to be real and genuine with yourself, and don’t worry about what your neighbour or a passerby might think of you. People judge, that’s in our nature. But, more importantly, everyone is so consumed with themselves and perceives the world from their point of view. Don’t let somebody else’s vision cloud your own choices and happiness.
Beauty Means Being Yourself
Extreme beauty and fashion makeovers in our 20s serve to help us realise that beauty begins the moment we decide to be ourselves, as the great Coco Chanel once said. It’s time to realise you are unique and beautiful just the way you are and you don’t need to conform to the idealised standards of Instagram or magazine beauty. If you feel that small changes can help you look and feel better – go for it, and find a cosmetic clinic that can help you make the small changes. But remember to do it out of love for yourself, not out of fear that you won’t be accepted. Enhance what you think are your most beautiful features and adjust and accept less favourite ones.
Your Parents Did the Best They Knew
The road to self-discovery and maturity often leads to questioning our parents’ choices and actions during our childhood. This often leads to dramatic arguments with our parents and even not speaking to them. It’s time to put an end to this by considering their perspective for a moment. We need to understand their upbringing, fears and insecurities and life circumstances that motivated certain actions. But, most importantly, we need to accept them and realise that they only wanted the best for us and that they acted according to their level of consciousness.
You Will Fail
No matter if it is work, relationships or any other aspect of life, you won’t always have it all figured out and you will fail, many times. But that’s what life is about. Overcoming failure and fears and getting out of your comfort zone. That is the only way you can ever grow and achieve something. If you want that 30s confidence, you need to be open to not succeeding and learning a lesson or two each time.
Your Life is Now
Instead of waiting for that job, promotion, partner or car to make you happy, start being happy in this very moment. As much as you are sick of hearing this, life really is a journey, not a destination. It is about connecting the dots and figuring out the ways that lead to a desire or a goal. Yet, in order to enjoy it, you need to bring magic into each step. Have fun, explore and relax. Decide to be happy instead of waiting for some external factor to bring you happiness. Because it won’t. At least not lasting happiness.
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