Romantic relationships change in time. Nobody can expect their relationships will stay the same way it was in the first couple of months when the passion was strong and everything about your partner was thrilling and sweet.
In time, people feel a certain decrease in the exhilaration they feel every time their partner enters the room and they don’t feel the need to spend every waking hour with them.
However, it doesn’t mean that it’s ok to take your partner for granted or the love you have for each other. It’s a slippery slope – month after month, you could feel more and more detached from your other half, seeing their presence in your life as something common and even boring. The art of successful relationships is in the ability of the couple to keep the flame going. Sure, the intensity of the flame won’t be like at the beginning of the relationship, but it doesn’t mean you are destined to be stuck in a rut. A couple of tricks that you can resort to from time to time will help your relationship stay in the honeymoon phase for a long time.
1. Staycation
You honeymoon won’t be forgotten if you remind yourself of it at least twice a year. Your hectic lives may make you forget about each other sometimes, so it should be a priority to find a weekend or two throughout the year when you get to spend some time together, all alone. It doesn’t have to be a trip to an exotic destination – even 2 days in a fancy hotel in your city can do wonders. You simply lock the door and focus on each other for two days – order a room service, take photos from your honeymoon and have a spa.
2. Cuddling as a form of intimacy
Never stop cuddling. Remember how you used to enjoy it when you were a new couple and how often you used to do it. Frequent meaningful touch between partners will maintain the high level of intimacy between you. It is a simple activity that can last only for a couple of minutes, but the effects are amazing. You will instantly feel closer to your partner, safe and cozy – these are the feelings that you will associate with your partner from then on.
3. Find mutual passions
Of course, every person is unique, with their own interests and passions. It doesn’t mean that the two of you can’t find at least one thing you enjoy doing together. If you know what that is, try to do it together at least once a week. Maybe it’s a simple walk or cycling around the city; it can be a hobby that you both enjoy or a favourite TV show. Let it be the time when the two of you enjoy something you both feel passionate about.
4. Learn how to argue constructively
There isn’t a couple in this world that hasn’t gotten into a fight at least once. After all that time, the two of you are bound to have an argument about an issue. The trick is not to avoid the fight but to do it in a constructive way without hurting the feelings of the other person. This is a hard thing to do and it will take some time to avoid placing the blame on the partner. People tend to do that when fighting but you should make an effort to avoid this trap. Your relationship will be stronger, as will your love for one another if you learn to control yourself and to work together towards solving the problem.
5. Little signs of affection matter
Remember when you used to constantly surprise each other with little gifts or warm, affectionate words without any reason at all? Don’t give up on this beautiful habit. People love being surprised and love getting gifts when there is nothing obvious to celebrate.
From time to time, you could arrange a specific gift to be delivered to your partner at work, at home or if they are on a business trip to show them you are thinking of them. You don’t even have to go anywhere; you can do it while sitting at your office. For example, there are unique online flower shops in Australia that send flower arrangements all over the world after just a couple of clicks. People can order a delivery of flowers in Melbourne, Ontario or Paris while sitting at home.
Also, saying “I love you” while your partner is preparing a meal, brushing their teeth or getting ready for work will instantly form a connection between the two of you. Saying to your partner how much you appreciate them will create a bubble that only the two of you will be in, and that’s a great feeling.
All in all
Relationships take a lot of effort. It doesn’t get much easier in time because life will bring you a lot of outside stress and numerous obligations that will cost you some time with your partner. That’s why you should do your best to make every minute with your partner count. Only that will ensure your relationship withstand the test of time.
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